I do not enjoy all aspects of parenting. I do not I do not enjoy all aspects of parenting. 
I do not like it when my toddler has meltdowns or whines. 
I do not find it fun when one infant wakes the other. 
I especially cannot stand my youngest when she cries, it is so frightening that it makes my entire being on edge, and it makes me want to run for the hills.
However, this all came as part of the package, or as we call it the ‘gift’ of parenthood. For my two youngest, Newton (days shy from 7 months) and Neptune (4 months), here’s to your first of many Christmases I hope to spend with you. For my firstborn, Nanette, please don’t ask Daddy or Santa for another brother sister, try asking for a pony next year. 
If you have any kind of a family dream that you feel you cannot reach, remain hopeful. It took me 8 years to finally meet my firstborn through surrogacy. Whatever road you take to achieve your family dream, stay strong, and I can promise you it is all worth it. #parenthood #parentingishardwork

Santa + Mrs Clause: @meettheclauses
Just like that, my youngest, Neptune Nina is now 1 Just like that, my youngest, Neptune Nina is now 100 days old. I’ve enjoyed watching you grow into this alert little baby. You smile with your eyes (smize), and you have the loudest cry of them all. I know you’re going to go places, and outwit your older sister and brother. We are so blessed to have you, Neptune Nina.
In Chinese culture, 100 Days is an important milestone for the baby because 100 days birth celebration represents the wish that the baby will live 100 years and reaches longevity. Long live Neptune Nina, we love you.
One of my personal goals when I started my consultancy. @proudfertility was to help 100 families meet their child. Having come to this field, I know firsthand how challenging a fertility journey can be. I am still looking forward to the day that I can say that 100 #surrobabies can be born with the help of my consultancy. #100daysold
“Be thankful for everything that happens in your “Be thankful for everything that happens in your life; it’s all an experience.” (Roy T. Bennett)
This is our first Thanksgiving as a family of four. I am not only thankful for the egg donors and surrogates who helped bring my three children to me, but I remain grateful to those who were also involved in some way or other! I’m thankful for all the people who choose to work with my small egg donation and surrogacy agency @proudfertility - it’s such an honour to be a part of others’ journey. This photo was taken at one of my favourite spots in Banff. It’s called the “Surprise Corner” viewpoint, and it really is so fitting for me this 2021, it’s such a ‘surprise’ to have my hands this full!
#grateful #thanksgiving2021 #singledadlife

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I can't believe it has taken more than a decade to I can't believe it has taken more than a decade to complete my family, but it was worth the wait. Neptune Nina Mei-Yun Chan, was born August 20th at 6:13am, 6 lbs 15 oz, with the help of an extraordinary surrogate and an egg donor. She couldn't be any more perfect - she has a squishy face, she's the most vocal of my three children, was born the largest of the three, and has shown the broadest range of facial expressions of the three. These photos were all taken at the hospital within the first 12 hours after birth. My heart is full and I have nothing by gratitude to the women who have helped me, and to our Lord Almighty who showed so much mercy and protected Neptune Nina and guided her earthside in this tumultuous pandemic. 
Photo: @racheljohansenphotography 
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I’ve dreamed for a decade that I’d have a litt I’ve dreamed for a decade that I’d have a little girl whom I’d take to her first dance 💃 class in her cute little outfit 👗 And that dream was fulfilled today. Nanette was so excited about her first dance class, and was giddy about it all day. There is a little part of me that does hope she might become Odette in Swan Lake, or Clara in the Nutcracker one day, but if that is not her calling, then I will have been satisfied knowing that I gave my little girl the right 👠 shoes to conquer the world. #daddreams #familydreams #primaballerina #singledadlife
FROM OUT OF THIS WORLD, and this is not a joke bec FROM OUT OF THIS WORLD, and this is not a joke because it’s not April right now! … I’m so excited to share that Nanette will be having a little sister!!! Like I said in the video “it’s actually pink!!!!!!” None of this would be possible without our egg donor and our surrogate. Your generosity and kindness will never be forgotten, I’m forever indebted to you.
Never in my wildest dreams did I think I’d be so blessed to become a father of 3, but I guess this is actually happening. Yes, this was a very intentional process and I didn’t accidentally get another woman pregnant but my baby girl is being grown by her own ‘tummy-mommy’, a gestational surrogate. A gestational surrogate shares no genetic connection to the baby she’s carrying. I know this is so ‘out of this world’ and I have to pinch myself- is this happening??? I am so grateful that Nanette has a little sister. 
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Edible Tower: @sweetstemsco
Photography: @racheljohansenphotography 
Surrogacy & Egg Donation Consultancy: @proudfertility

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How often do you look at the mirror? What I can te How often do you look at the mirror? What I can tell you is that I look into the mirror less and less as I age. I no longer put that pomade in the palms of my hand and run it in my hair, only to look into the mirror to make sure it’s applied throughout the whole head. I barely look into the mirror to make sure my outfit is still presentable, as I just want to get clothed quickly and get my kids ready as we have to be off somewhere. 
What I do notice is how we have been looking into the mirror as a family. Nanette loves it when we bathe her little brother in the sink. There before us, is the mirror where we look at the image reflected. I notice my now 8 week old very curious of his own image in the mirror. ‘Who is that in the mirror?’ he probably asks. 
Mirrors reflect light which allows them to reflect the world around them. Spiritually, light is a powerful symbol of wisdom and awareness and as a consequence, mirrors are symbols and carriers of truth and reflect what our truth is. 
Throughout the ages, mirrors are believed to have predicted the future, captured and transported souls, and reflected far more than the just the present user’s image. Mirrors have served as metaphors with myriad meanings, as symbols of divinity and power, implements of distortion, and tools for self-reflection.
So here I am, reflecting on my journey it took to get to here… as I sit quietly watching my 3 year old get her Sunday morning massage. No mirrors are around me, but I use my social media as an outlet to self-reflect how I am feeling as an individual and as a father. There are so many parts of this life journey and my journey as a father that is so unsettling but I take this morning’s self-réflection as a time to just be present. 
#wanderingsofthemind #existentialreflection #fatherhoodislit #singledadlife #singledaddybychoice
As I celebrate my fourth Father’s Day this year, As I celebrate my fourth Father’s Day this year, I reflect upon what it took for me to have my two little ones. It took a long eleven years to fulfill my family dreams, and while I wish it would have taken a lot less time, I fully acknowledge that I appreciate becoming a father more, because it took so much longer. Afterall, they say the best things in life are worth waiting for!
While Father’s Day for many is about honouring the men who play an important role in our lives, Father’s Day for me in particular is a time for me to be grateful to all the women who have come into our lives - our Egg Donors and our Surrogate Angels who have helped me become a Father in such an unconventional way. Becoming a parent through egg donation and surrogacy in Canada has been a humbling experience. It doesn’t matter what my background is, what personal successes I have accomplished, but it was through the generosity of these women that it has taught me to be humble, grateful and compassionate. 
#fatherhoodunplugged #surrogacyjourney 
Photo: @racheljohansenphotography
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