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Happy National Daughter’s Day to my two beautifu

Happy National Daughter’s Day to my two beautiful, smart, and fearless girls! I know the world is not fair to women, it’s not as safe, and a lot of things will be harder for them as they go through life. I also know they are both brilliant and resilient and will face any challenge that comes their way. I feel so privileged to be able to raise such independent and strong daughters. My hope for them is they continue to grow in all their strengths and make their individual marks on our world. They are destined for great things!
I love you Nanette and Neptune Nina! 💕

"Where's the mom?" "Wow, what a good husband, givi

"Where's the mom?"
"Wow, what a good husband, giving mom a break!"
"You have a lucky wife!"
"Dad's turn to babysit?"
First off, you'd be surprised just how many times I am out and get these kind of questions or remarks. Secondly, c'mon. What year is it again? Honestly. As a man and as a single dad by choice, its just straight up offensive to refer to a Dad as a "babysitter". I know once upon a time we lived in a world where child rearing was considered "women's work" and apparently men just got to come home, kick their feet up and not lift a finger but its 2022 and the world hasn't looked like that in decades. I am perfectly capable, as a single male parent, to be able to love and raise kids. Furthermore, men who spend time with their children alone are not some Unicorn breed of male. All men are capable of taking care of children and if you're a dad, you SHOULD be, it's literally your job. You are part of the equation that chose to bring a life into the world, you are responsible as much as your wife or partner or as in my case, all on your own, to ensure that life is loved, nurtured, fed, bathed, read to, and cared for. If you are not spending one on one time with your kids, you are seriously missing out. Please remember, your early relationship with your kids will dictate your future relationship with them.
As for the rest of you who have ever made a remark like stated above- some swaps for you:
"What a happy family!"
"Your kids are adorable!"
"You are doing a great job, Dad!" (Please also say this to moms! They deserve as much celebration as we do.)
"Can I take your picture for you?"
"Beautiful family!"

You can definitely say that I've got my hands full

You can definitely say that I've got my hands full! Being a single dad by choice to three little ones is not for the faint of heart. Between bottle feedings, diaper changes, packing 2 diaper bags and a backpack full of snacks, securing babies into car seats and a preschooler into her booster seat, some may wonder how on earth or maybe more so, why on earth I ever leave my house. The concern is valid. It is a lot of work. It's a lot of preparation. This past year and half I've had to become more organized than ever. But I couldn't imagine NOT doing these things with my little family that I strived so hard to create. I love experiencing all my favourite places with them. I love how Nanette lights up when we are out, and how Newton and Neptune's eyes grow big and they get still with wonder. Would it be easier to stay home, avoid the car ride tears, the public meltdowns, the multiple diaper and bottle breaks, absolutely. But then we would miss out on all this beauty surrounding us. I truly believe it's all about flexibility as a single parent, or any parent for that matter. Maybe you need to adjust plans once in a while or be okay with a stroller nap now and again. Don't let the work scare you into becoming a house hermit. You need that fresh air and social interaction as much as they do. The more you go, the braver you get and better equipped you all are at taking on new adventures. It might not get easier, but it will feel easier as you grow more confident as a parent. So enjoy your local sunflower farm, the zoo, the park or even a trip across the country with your little ones. Don't stop making plans just because you may need to plan a little more thoughtfully. Being a single parent is a gift I'm the most grateful for and I plan on living life to the full, full arms in tow!

I was reflecting today on how grateful I am to be

I was reflecting today on how grateful I am to be Canadian 🍁 and to be able to share this great country and its rich heritage with my children. Not only are the landscapes beautiful, the people friendly, the culture diverse, and the opportunities plenty, but Canada is one of the very few countries worldwide that allows for altruistic surrogacy. I wouldn't be a blessed single dad to three if it wasn't for that. It is a true privilege to live here.
I'm proud to raise my kids in this new generation that acknowledges our country's full history. In a time that includes, celebrates, and gives opportunities to ALL Canadians of all backgrounds. Is there still work to do? Absolutely. It's important that we all do our part in educating our children about the past and present, about racism and inclusion, about love and acceptance of others. I truly believe our diversity is our greatest asset.
On September 30th, this month in Canada, we mark National Day for Truth and Reconciliation. It is a day to teach our children and ourselves about the children who never returned home and the ones who survived residential schools, and the impact it had on their families and communities. We can wear orange shirts as a symbol of remembrance. We can support indigenous businesses and organizations. We can share stories and books with our children. What do you and your family do to learn about Orange Shirt Day? Any special ideas to share with toddlers and preschoolers? Please share your ideas with us below! 🙂

"Oh my goodness, are they twins!!!???" Just how ma

"Oh my goodness, are they twins!!!???" Just how many times do you think I've been asked this question? Ah, sorry to disappoint, but they are not. However, I think their story is so much more unique. Neptune (Left) and Newton (Right) are just shy of three months apart! Thanks to pretty much a tandem journey by two incredible surrogate angels, I have a full house and a full heart.
While they are not technically twins, they very much act like they are, and parenting, I dare compare, would be very similar to that experience. One sleeping, one crying. One feeding, one playing. Trying (an often futile experience) to get these munchkins on the same schedule. But also, watching them bond with each other (and sometimes hit each other, who knew infants could be so hostile!😝 🤕 ) is such a special part to having them so close in age. They are so entertained by one another and little Neptune wants to keep up to her big brother in everything. It is safe to say that I definitely have my work cut out for me.
Tandem surrogacy is certainly not for the faint of heart but for me it has completed my family and filled our house with a lot of noise, a lot of laughter, and a lot of love. My friends love to razz me that I am a glutton for punishment, but I think I've just always been the type to take a challenge head on and deal with the bumps and twists as I meet them. Despite a few extra sleepless nights, a lot of tears (mine included), the journey is so worth it. Not only the journey of near-twins but the journey of single fatherhood period. Is it difficult being a single dad to 3? Absolutely. I'm sure many couples of three or four or five also feel the stretch of being outnumbered. Is it possible? Absolutely. Is it worth it? 100 times 100. I am beyond blessed and thankful for each of these gifts in my life. Being a Dad to three is a dream come true. ❤️ ❤️ ❤️

I'm so grateful for sweet moments like this with m

I'm so grateful for sweet moments like this with my little girl. The journey to fatherhood for me as a single daddy by choice was not easy, not only because of the financial burdens and long and arduous road, but because at the end of the day, I'm not able to make a family the traditional way. There were points in time when I wondered if I would ever get to experience the joys of fatherhood. Sleepless nights and doubt were constant. Tears and frustration and moments of hopelessness all too common. A single guy trying to start a family takes a lot of courage, a lot of patience, and a lot of grace and even more humility.
Moments like this, taking my daughter travelling with me all over the world, all the hugs and kisses, they are made even sweeter because I know how truly precious it is to be a parent. It is a gift that I do not take lightly. I would have never realized this dream to have my own family if it weren't for the selflessness of women who have made this possible through surrogacy and egg donation. I am reminded daily when I look into my child's eyes that life is truly a gift and being a dad is the greatest gift of all.

I do not enjoy all aspects of parenting. I do not

I do not enjoy all aspects of parenting.
I do not like it when my toddler has meltdowns or whines.
I do not find it fun when one infant wakes the other.
I especially cannot stand my youngest when she cries, it is so frightening that it makes my entire being on edge, and it makes me want to run for the hills.
However, this all came as part of the package, or as we call it the ‘gift’ of parenthood. For my two youngest, Newton (days shy from 7 months) and Neptune (4 months), here’s to your first of many Christmases I hope to spend with you. For my firstborn, Nanette, please don’t ask Daddy or Santa for another brother sister, try asking for a pony next year.
If you have any kind of a family dream that you feel you cannot reach, remain hopeful. It took me 8 years to finally meet my firstborn through surrogacy. Whatever road you take to achieve your family dream, stay strong, and I can promise you it is all worth it. #parenthood #parentingishardwork

Santa + Mrs Clause: @meettheclauses

Just like that, my youngest, Neptune Nina is now 1

Just like that, my youngest, Neptune Nina is now 100 days old. I’ve enjoyed watching you grow into this alert little baby. You smile with your eyes (smize), and you have the loudest cry of them all. I know you’re going to go places, and outwit your older sister and brother. We are so blessed to have you, Neptune Nina.
In Chinese culture, 100 Days is an important milestone for the baby because 100 days birth celebration represents the wish that the baby will live 100 years and reaches longevity. Long live Neptune Nina, we love you.
One of my personal goals when I started my consultancy. @proudfertility was to help 100 families meet their child. Having come to this field, I know firsthand how challenging a fertility journey can be. I am still looking forward to the day that I can say that 100 #surrobabies can be born with the help of my consultancy. #100daysold

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Nathan meets Nanette first time

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Nanette trying to talk

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