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"Oh my goodness, are they twins!!!???" Just how ma

"Oh my goodness, are they twins!!!???" Just how many times do you think I've been asked this question? Ah, sorry to disappoint, but they are not. However, I think their story is so much more unique. Neptune (Left) and Newton (Right) are just shy of three months apart! Thanks to pretty much a tandem journey by two incredible surrogate angels, I have a full house and a full heart.
While they are not technically twins, they very much act like they are, and parenting, I dare compare, would be very similar to that experience. One sleeping, one crying. One feeding, one playing. Trying (an often futile experience) to get these munchkins on the same schedule. But also, watching them bond with each other (and sometimes hit each other, who knew infants could be so hostile!😝 🤕 ) is such a special part to having them so close in age. They are so entertained by one another and little Neptune wants to keep up to her big brother in everything. It is safe to say that I definitely have my work cut out for me.
Tandem surrogacy is certainly not for the faint of heart but for me it has completed my family and filled our house with a lot of noise, a lot of laughter, and a lot of love. My friends love to razz me that I am a glutton for punishment, but I think I've just always been the type to take a challenge head on and deal with the bumps and twists as I meet them. Despite a few extra sleepless nights, a lot of tears (mine included), the journey is so worth it. Not only the journey of near-twins but the journey of single fatherhood period. Is it difficult being a single dad to 3? Absolutely. I'm sure many couples of three or four or five also feel the stretch of being outnumbered. Is it possible? Absolutely. Is it worth it? 100 times 100. I am beyond blessed and thankful for each of these gifts in my life. Being a Dad to three is a dream come true. ❤️ ❤️ ❤️

I'm so grateful for sweet moments like this with m

I'm so grateful for sweet moments like this with my little girl. The journey to fatherhood for me as a single daddy by choice was not easy, not only because of the financial burdens and long and arduous road, but because at the end of the day, I'm not able to make a family the traditional way. There were points in time when I wondered if I would ever get to experience the joys of fatherhood. Sleepless nights and doubt were constant. Tears and frustration and moments of hopelessness all too common. A single guy trying to start a family takes a lot of courage, a lot of patience, and a lot of grace and even more humility.
Moments like this, taking my daughter travelling with me all over the world, all the hugs and kisses, they are made even sweeter because I know how truly precious it is to be a parent. It is a gift that I do not take lightly. I would have never realized this dream to have my own family if it weren't for the selflessness of women who have made this possible through surrogacy and egg donation. I am reminded daily when I look into my child's eyes that life is truly a gift and being a dad is the greatest gift of all.

I do not enjoy all aspects of parenting. I do not

I do not enjoy all aspects of parenting.
I do not like it when my toddler has meltdowns or whines.
I do not find it fun when one infant wakes the other.
I especially cannot stand my youngest when she cries, it is so frightening that it makes my entire being on edge, and it makes me want to run for the hills.
However, this all came as part of the package, or as we call it the ‘gift’ of parenthood. For my two youngest, Newton (days shy from 7 months) and Neptune (4 months), here’s to your first of many Christmases I hope to spend with you. For my firstborn, Nanette, please don’t ask Daddy or Santa for another brother sister, try asking for a pony next year.
If you have any kind of a family dream that you feel you cannot reach, remain hopeful. It took me 8 years to finally meet my firstborn through surrogacy. Whatever road you take to achieve your family dream, stay strong, and I can promise you it is all worth it. #parenthood #parentingishardwork

Santa + Mrs Clause: @meettheclauses

Just like that, my youngest, Neptune Nina is now 1

Just like that, my youngest, Neptune Nina is now 100 days old. I’ve enjoyed watching you grow into this alert little baby. You smile with your eyes (smize), and you have the loudest cry of them all. I know you’re going to go places, and outwit your older sister and brother. We are so blessed to have you, Neptune Nina.
In Chinese culture, 100 Days is an important milestone for the baby because 100 days birth celebration represents the wish that the baby will live 100 years and reaches longevity. Long live Neptune Nina, we love you.
One of my personal goals when I started my consultancy. @proudfertility was to help 100 families meet their child. Having come to this field, I know firsthand how challenging a fertility journey can be. I am still looking forward to the day that I can say that 100 #surrobabies can be born with the help of my consultancy. #100daysold

“Be thankful for everything that happens in your

“Be thankful for everything that happens in your life; it’s all an experience.” (Roy T. Bennett)
This is our first Thanksgiving as a family of four. I am not only thankful for the egg donors and surrogates who helped bring my three children to me, but I remain grateful to those who were also involved in some way or other! I’m thankful for all the people who choose to work with my small egg donation and surrogacy agency @proudfertility - it’s such an honour to be a part of others’ journey. This photo was taken at one of my favourite spots in Banff. It’s called the “Surprise Corner” viewpoint, and it really is so fitting for me this 2021, it’s such a ‘surprise’ to have my hands this full!
#grateful #thanksgiving2021 #singledadlife

Elsa hat made by @total.knitcase

I can't believe it has taken more than a decade to

I can't believe it has taken more than a decade to complete my family, but it was worth the wait. Neptune Nina Mei-Yun Chan, was born August 20th at 6:13am, 6 lbs 15 oz, with the help of an extraordinary surrogate and an egg donor. She couldn't be any more perfect - she has a squishy face, she's the most vocal of my three children, was born the largest of the three, and has shown the broadest range of facial expressions of the three. These photos were all taken at the hospital within the first 12 hours after birth. My heart is full and I have nothing by gratitude to the women who have helped me, and to our Lord Almighty who showed so much mercy and protected Neptune Nina and guided her earthside in this tumultuous pandemic.
Photo: @racheljohansenphotography
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I’ve dreamed for a decade that I’d have a litt

I’ve dreamed for a decade that I’d have a little girl whom I’d take to her first dance 💃 class in her cute little outfit 👗 And that dream was fulfilled today. Nanette was so excited about her first dance class, and was giddy about it all day. There is a little part of me that does hope she might become Odette in Swan Lake, or Clara in the Nutcracker one day, but if that is not her calling, then I will have been satisfied knowing that I gave my little girl the right 👠 shoes to conquer the world. #daddreams #familydreams #primaballerina #singledadlife

FROM OUT OF THIS WORLD, and this is not a joke bec

FROM OUT OF THIS WORLD, and this is not a joke because it’s not April right now! … I’m so excited to share that Nanette will be having a little sister!!! Like I said in the video “it’s actually pink!!!!!!” None of this would be possible without our egg donor and our surrogate. Your generosity and kindness will never be forgotten, I’m forever indebted to you.
Never in my wildest dreams did I think I’d be so blessed to become a father of 3, but I guess this is actually happening. Yes, this was a very intentional process and I didn’t accidentally get another woman pregnant but my baby girl is being grown by her own ‘tummy-mommy’, a gestational surrogate. A gestational surrogate shares no genetic connection to the baby she’s carrying. I know this is so ‘out of this world’ and I have to pinch myself- is this happening??? I am so grateful that Nanette has a little sister.
Cannons: @bellebeauconfetti.co
Edible Tower: @sweetstemsco
Photography: @racheljohansenphotography
Surrogacy & Egg Donation Consultancy: @proudfertility

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